Just recently, a parent of a client of ours who we were able to help obtain their full Disability Tax Credit and Child Disability Benefit funds received their final benefits payment. The circumstances for this family are a bit unique in that we began helping them in May of 2013, two years ago, which is significantly longer than the typical case, where we just finalized their claim today,
Sadly, part way through the claim effort our client passed away. She was 19 years old, and had a condition that was very threatening to her health, to the degree it finally overcame her. We were able to continue the claim working with her father to its completion.
The reason I am posting this is because this girl’s example is not only heartwarming but also inspiring. This girl, we will call her Sarah, was diagnosed with behavioral restrictions, which resulted in her making very poor decisions and acting out in detrimental and harmful ways to herself and her family to the degree she was not allowed in the family home and had to live on her own. This young health restricted girl struggling largely on her own (though her parent’s continued to help her where they could) found the gumption to contact someone in an effort to find out if she could get the help and resources she needed to help her to address her condition more successfully.
It turned out that she did meet the qualifying criteria, however that she would require cooperation from her parents as the benefits would only apply to them (as her past/present caregivers). The problem was, that she was not on speaking terms with her parents, as a result of her self-admitted poor decisions and behaviour. She expressed responsibility and remorse for her past behaviours though felt her parent’s would likely not be willing to help being that she exhausted their trust and tolerance. The good news is that we were able to work with Sarah further,and helped her to re-establish communications with her parents, and then began productive efforts to help obtain benefits that could ultimately be used to help her toward her treatment and healing efforts. How things ended up you know.
There is however, more to Sarah’s story and is the reason for this post. Too often, here at BMD we have been contacted by young people, in their late teens or early twenties, who report that they are dealing with their health restrictions, mental and/or physical, completely on their own. Their family leave them to their own devices to manage their health, and are not engaged, not proactive, nor supportive of their childs situation. These lone sufferers are consequently likely to experience the higher degree of negative impact of their health restriction, their condition is more prone to worsening, and they fail to receive optimal treatment and support. These loners are most likely to suffer the most. Sarah is an example of this, where in her case she experienced the worst possible outcome. Her case is unique considering her significant behavioural condition, and this is not to say that her parents did not make attempts to help in every way possible, so this is in no way a criticism of their supportive efforts.
The point here is, that person’s suffering alone do not overcome as successfully as those who have support from others. Parents with health restricted children should consider becoming more involved to better ensure their children’s restrictions have the least negative impact possible. As well, young people with restrictions should make efforts to further engage family or others to encourage them to become more involved. In fact, regardless of age or relationship, health restricted person’s do better with support of others.
So, our hearts go out to Sarah who so bravely reached out, and subsequently inspired this message and hopefully will inspire not only parents of health restricted children to become more engaged and supportive in their children’s health experience, but anyone of any age to become more helpful with others experiencing health challenges.
So, if you are a younger person who has a health restriction, or if you are a parent of a health restricted child, or if you are person, or family member of a person, of any age with a health restriction, that is looking for information about the Disability Tax Credit, we here at BMD would be glad to answer any questions you may have.
Thank you Sarah. Rest in peace.